Valentine’s day is almost here, and everyone is trying to figure out the perfect gift for their boyfriend or girlfriend. 

Stores are packed with roses, pink hearts, chocolates and stuffed animals, but are those really the best options for your significant other? Or is there something more personal that can actually show how much you care?

Most people think of Valentine’s Day as a time for flowers and candy. While they’re classic gifts, they don’t always feel super special. According to Professor John Wu, the best gifts aren’t about how much money you spend, but about how much thought you put into them.

 “Gifts or activities that reminisce or remind you of previous memorable activities or experiences together are likely to be fun and strengthen your relationship,” Wu told Sydney Brammer for an article in the Point Loma University student news site. 

So what’s the perfect Valentine’s Day gift? The truth is, the thought and effort behind a gift matters far more than the amount of money spent. A meaningful present shows that you truly know and appreciate your partner, making it much more special than something expensive but impersonal. It depends on the person, but the best gifts are usually personalized or experience – based. Here are some ideas that go beyond the usual and actually make an impact:

A handwritten love letter: Since everyone texts and snaps these days, a handwritten letter can make your partner feel extra special. Writing down how you feel shows effort and sincerity, making it more meaningful. You can even add small doodles or an inside joke to make it even more personal. 

A customized gift: This could be an engraved necklace, a scrapbook of your best moments and memories together, or even a playlist of songs that remind you of them. A perfect gift is one that shows you know what they like. Some people even make digital collages or edit videos with their favorite memories. 

An experience together: Instead of just buying something, plan something fun to do together, like going to a concert, having a fun date night or even taking a mini road trip. Making fun memories together is way better than just giving a gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive – having a picnic, baking together or even watching your favorite movie marathon can be just as special. 

An act of service: If your partner is always busy or stressed, or doesn’t really have any time to think for themselves – doing something nice and thoughtful for them – like making their favorite meal, surprising them with a fun date or just helping them with something they need can mean a lot. Even something small can make a difference, like warming up their car on a cold morning or writing a cute note for them to find.

A gift that matches their interests: If they love reading, get them a book they’ve been wanting. If they’re into art – grab some new supplies. Finding a gift that connects with their hobbies shows you really pay attention to what they love and what they are excited about. If they love sports, maybe get tickets for a game, or if they love gaming, maybe a new item for their favorite console. 

In the end, the best Valentine’s Day gift is something that really speaks to your relationship. Chocolates and roses are fine, but something more personal will always be more meaningful. This Valentine’s Day, try going for something unique and heartfelt – it’ll definitely make the day more special. And if all else fails, remember that no one has ever been disappointed by extra snacks.