Derogatory language.

We’ve all used it. We all understand its implications. We all understand the impression it gives… how it makes us look and feel. Of course, therein lies the problem—a person may understand how using derogatory language affects him or herself, but might not understand how it affects those around us.

According to Merriam Webster, derogatory is defined as “expressing a low opinion of someone or something.” Some might say, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it,” but that’s not the case. Derogatory language is so much more than saying something mean or putting someone down. Whether it’s initially intended to be so or not, derogatory language is hurtful. Slang. Racial Slurs. Hateful Comments. Obscene Language. You never know what will cut a person the deepest.

Still, why cut them at all? While derogatory language is not acceptable in any way, shape, or form, slang, racial slurs, hateful comments and obscene language are still often used. Why is that?

It’s because people know their audience; people know when it is and when it is not acceptable to use derogatory language. Whether it be with friends, parents, or teachers, students are aware of when and where derogatory language is acceptable, humorous, tolerated, discouraged, or even scolded.

Still, sometimes audiences are subject to change. What may be inappropriate language with your teachers now may be appropriate after you have graduated from high school and have surpassed the age of twenty. What may be funny with your friends at one point in time may be interpreted as derogatory and offensive later.

Everyone has different limits. It’s important to know those limits. It’s important to adhere to those limits.

You might say that kids will be kids and use all the derogatory language they want, that no one cares. But the truth is, people do care. When you’re not the one making the derogatory comments—when you’re the subject of the derogatory subjects—you’re vulnerable.

You’re the one being put down, made fun of, and gossiped about. So this is my challenge to you:

Don’t use derogatory language. It’s offensive and insensitive. If this is too much to ask of you, at least know your audience.